Pick Up Your Cross!

Pick Up Your Cross!

I read this article on Ladycee’s blog “Women Of Warfare ” and it has been haunting me ever since (in a good way of course 😊).

I just thought of sharing it with you because I also want you to experience what I experienced. No, not the haunting but a personal revival that came through reading the post.

Please read it prayerfully, it will change your life.

God bless!

Women of Warfare! (WOW!)

What is your cross?

It is any situation that calls for you to die to the dictates, desires and demands of your flesh… that requires you to take the route of suffering knowing that death to your flesh will enable you to minister God’s life-giving spirit to someone else.

The “flesh” represents not just your body but also your appetites, inclinations, impulses, negative and contrary responses.

Now the cross we are expected to carry, the path we are expected to tread will be unique to each one of us.

In my case, crucifying my flesh requires me to remain silent in the face of lies, false accusations, scorn and ridicule. It demands that I walk humbly through the gates of self-denial and submit to the punishing nails of humiliation as my name, reputation and self-esteem are nailed mercilessly to my cross. It also demands that I bear this cross of perpetual…

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5 Tips For Getting Through the Dreaded Teenage Phase

Hi guys!

Sorry for the long silence. I have been busy working on setting up a freelance writing business (if you know anyone who needs a freelance writer let me know😁).

Just thought I would share an article of mine that got published this weekend. Would appreciate if you can read it and share.

Thanks! Much love.

5 Tips For Getting Through the Dreaded Teenage Phase

The Dreaded Years
It’s every parents worst nightmare. It’s an inevitable moment on the journey of parenthood. A moment that comes too soon for many a parent, finding them ill equipped to handle the drastic changes that come with it.

Yes. You got It right. I’m talking about the terrible teenager stage. Science attributes it to hormones and growth, but I think it’s a conspiracy theory. I think the teens gather in the middle of the night and conspire to test our love for them.

Whatever the logical (or outlandish) reason for your little angel mutating into a pain in the rear end, it is possible for you as a parent to prevent or cure it. This article is a prescription for parents who are ready to take the battle behind enemy lines.

Ready? Here goes.


#1. Cut Them Some Slack

I remember it as if it were yesterday. It was a sunny day and the water was glistening as it reflected the sun’s rays. Well not really, the water was muddy but that’s besides the point. 

The point is I caught my first fish that day. As I struggled to reel it in my father shouted, “cut him some slack!” I knew what he meant. I had seen him doing it a couple of times. He would let the fish swim a distance, reel it in, let it swim a short distance, reel it in and so on. The whole point of the exercise was to tire the fish out so as to make it easier to reel in.

Cut your teen some slack.

I know, I know. You wanted some sage wisdom that would make your teen as docile as a new born kitten. Sorry. Life isn’t like that. 

Sometimes as a parent you need to loosen up and give your teen room to grow. In fact, you need to extend the boundaries of the house rules at this stage in their life. Don’t treat them the same way you treat a toddler (how I wish that were possible).

Instead of fighting them, like the fish, give them enough room to extend their boundaries without letting them go off completely. This means trust them enough to let them do as they please but within the confines of legal and family values.

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IN HIS GLORY

In His glory

I’d like to be

By His side

I’ll keep astride


Under His wing

I sure will sing 

Singing His praise

His name I’ll raise


Be sure to come

Your soul He’ll calm 

For in His presence

You’ll find the essence

Of a joyous life

No, not one strife.


In His beauty

I’d like to be

His glory

I long to see

In the special place

He’s prepared for me



Feeling poetic

Blessed day my friends!

“I Love You Daddy💗!”

I am always moved when I hear my two children say those magic words, “I love you daddy!” I say they are magical because no matter how terrible my day would have been, no matter how downcast I May be, those words always change me. The situation May not change, but my outlook and resolve always do! Those words always open up wells of joy and awaken the victor in me.
Curious mind that I have, I usually wonder if they know what they would be saying. And as if they are professional mind readers, they prove it with a big warm hug that oozes with love. “How do young children like these know to love?” This always used to baffle me until one day it dawned on me….


1 John 4:8

He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

“God is love….” Young as they are, they understand love because they carry a part of God, we all do! We are created in His image and I believe the greatest part of Himself that He deposits in us is His love.

It’s unfortunate that this God part of us called love sometimes gets destroyed by the things we go through in life. Instead of love, we allow bitterness and hatred to prevail. And I have noticed that this happens in a subtle way! Our hearts are hardened as we try to defend them! We are all emotionally vulnerable, and if we are not careful, in defending ourselves, we make things worse. We end up hardening our hearts. We end up losing the most important deposit God placed in us, His love.

Matthew 5:44

But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,

I know this is a tough pill to swallow but it works! You can never fight evil with evil. If you do, you would have become just like them. When you love your enemies, you become the bigger person; you emerge victorious.

Proverbs 25:21 – 22

If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;

And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;

For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,

And the Lord will reward you.

The best revenge you can dish out on your enemies is love! And after revenging, God will reward you, why? Because you would have shown Him and His love to the world.

The choice is always ours, to love or to hate. History has proven it over and over again, hatred is not progressive neither is it profitable. Do not harden your heart, allow God’s love to flow through you. Don’t harbour bitterness, it will spread and everything in your life will be bitter. Love really does make the world go round, only problem is, it’s in short supply.

Choose love all the time!

PRIMARY PURPOSE LEADS TO SECONDARY PURPOSE 

On the journey to discovering purpose, we need to understand that we actually have two main purposes in life. A PRIMARY purpose and a SECONDARY purpose. 

The primary purpose always leads to the secondary purpose.
To understand this concept better, I will use a piano as an example. The primary purpose of every key on a piano is to make music, but each key has it’s own secondary purpose, to play a specific note.
Our primary purpose is to serve God. Everything that was created has the same primary purpose; to serve God.

Psalms 150:6

Let everything that has breath praise the Lord.

Praise the Lord!

Every living thing was created to glorify God. Born again or not, every human beings primary purpose is to serve God. It is as we fulfil this primary purpose that our secondary purpose is revealed.

Acts 13:2

As they ministered to the Lord and fasted, the Holy Spirit said, “Now separate to Me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them.”

As they were carrying out their primary purpose, the secondary purpose was revealed! Who better to tell you why you were created than the one who created you! It is in service that the Master reveals to us what He desires from us, our secondary purpose.

Acts 13:36


“For David, after he had served his own generation by the will of God, fell asleep, was buried with his fathers, and saw corruption;

David served his generation, he fulfilled his purpose. Where did it all start? In the Bush as he was serving God through psalms and worship. In his case, his secondary purpose of being Israel’s ruler found him as he was fulfilling his primary purpose.

1 Samuel 13:14

But now your kingdom shall not continue. The Lord has sought for Himself a man after His own heart, and the Lord has commanded him to be commander over His people, because you have not kept what the Lord commanded you.”

David was a man after God’s heart, in other words, he was passionate about serving God. Your passion for serving God will always open the door to your secondary purpose. It will always lead you to discover the answer to the eternal question, “Why am I here?

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From Pain To Purpose

In my previous post, I started sharing with you the 5 “P’s” to discovering your purpose. The first “P” we dealt with was passion. Your passion is a pointer to your purpose. Today we look at at an unlikely and unpleasant pointer; PAIN!

What pain are you willing to tolerate?
Pain is an essential ingredient to discovering your purpose. It sounds strange I know but read on to find out why.

There are certain things we are willing to suffer for and people call us crazy for it! Yet there are other things we see other people suffering for and we call them crazy! Purpose is always so strong in us to the extent that we are willing to suffer for it. We are willing to endure the pain.

Hebrews 12:2

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

What cross are you willing to endure? What pain are you able to tolerate? Nelson Mandela was willing to endure the cross of prison for the purpose of a free South Africa. He sacrificed his freedom and family because he realised his purpose was worth the price. Purpose always has a price, the question is are you willing to pay it?

There are always pain filled patches on the road to purpose. Some of them, though we don’t realise it, are training sessions! Pain is never meant to destroy us but to strengthen us.

Romans 8:28

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

 I know you don’t like pain, neither do I, but the pain we go through usually points to our purpose. It always works out for our good in that it brings us to our purpose. Joseph understood this well. He suffered the pain of rejection by his brothers. Not only did they reject him, they made a profit from him! How his heart must have bled as he saw his brothers dividing the money as he was dragged away to an unknown land. And when things seemed to have been getting better in Potiphar’s house, life dealt him another blow that had him sent to prison. Yet it is in prison that his destiny was unlocked! All the pain and tragedy was leading him to his purpose. Why do bad things happen to good people? Maybe that’s the route to purpose!

God had a purpose for Abram; to be the father of many nations. And yet he had no child and his biological clock was ticking it’s last. I can only imagine his pain when people mocked him and the promise of God on his life. And yet, in all that pain God had a purpose.

Some of the pain we go through is actually our ministry! A good example is that of Joyce Myers. Her ministry, her purpose, is founded on her traumatic past. She can easily relate to victims of abuse and trauma because she went through it. Turn your pain into your purpose! 

Genesis 50:20

But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.

The evil we encounter in our lives is a stepping stone to our purpose. You either let it overcome you, or you choose to rise up and use it to your advantage! The choice is always yours. They say necessity is the mother of all inventions. In other words, our pains and needs should always push us forward, not bury us.

What pain have you gone through in life? Don’t let it bury you, rise above it and turn it to your advantage. Turn your misery in to your ministry, your cross into your crown and your trials into your triumph!

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How To Discover Your Purpose

KEYS TO DISCOVERING PURPOSE

The discovery of purpose is not an event. Unfortunately, you also can’t take a course on “Purpose”. Purpose is not taught, it is discovered. The best anyone can do is point you in the right direction, the rest is up to you! The discovery of purpose is a journey, the fulfilment of purpose is the pinnacle of achievement.


Acts 13:36

For David, after he had served his own generation by the will of God, fell on sleep, and was laid unto his fathers, and saw corruption:

This should be your story at the end of your life, that you would have served your generation. “How can I serve my generation?” you ask. You serve your generation by fulfilling your purpose. The scripture above might as well read: “For David, after he had fulfilled his purpose, fell asleep…….”. The will of God for you is your purpose. God has deposited something in you that you are to use to serve your generation. That thing is called purpose.


How Do I Discover My Purpose?

As I mentioned earlier, no one can teach you your purpose, so I won’t deceive you by telling you what your purpose is. BUT, I can point you in the right direction. I will show you the 5 “P’s” that point to purpose. As you walk in the direction I am pointing you in, I believe you will discover your purpose.


PASSION

ˈpaʃ(ə)n/

noun

1. 1.

strong and barely controllable emotion.
There are certain things we all feel strongly about, things we are passionate about. These passions are indicators of purpose. They are like clues on a treasure map leading us to the treasure. Take stock of your passions, which direction are they leading you in? 

Passion, like many things in life has 2 sides to it. There are things we love passionately and then there are things we passionately abhor or hate. Both sides of passion are useful in discovering your purpose.


Passionately love

Some people are passionate about animals, it could be their purpose lies in animal welfare. Others have a strong compulsion to help and take care of the sick, they don’t care who it is, they just want to show mercy. It could be an indicator that your purpose is in medicine or some “mercy” related vocation.

The things we passionately love are pointers in the direction you should take in life. Purpose is meant to be enjoyed, not tolerated or suffered through. Find your strong passions and you are well on your way to discovering your purpose.


Passionately abhor

There are things in life that we just can’t stand. Let me stop being polite and say it as it is. There are certain things in life we hate with a passion. These things move us to anger, depression or frustration. These are good indicators of your purpose. What you hate, you are meant to correct!

People like Nelson Mandela, Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King and many others had a strong, passionate abhorrence for racial injustice and inequality. They just didn’t sit down and complain about it, they acted to change it. They found their purpose in life. What do you hate? What do you wish could be different? You are the one to bring that difference. You are the agent of change your generation is waiting for.


Converting Passion into Purpose

There are basically 2 kinds of people in life.

1. Those who wish

2. Those who act

Both of these do so based on one thing and one thing alone; PASSION! The wishers wish for something they have a strong desire for, something they are passionate about. The “actors” also take action based on their passions. The wishers never taste fulfilment, satisfaction and true joy in life. The actors on the other hand live a fulfilling, satisfying life. Which of the two are you?
You turn your passion into purpose by acting on it. Don’t just be passionate and dream about your passions. Take action! This is where many people miss it. They have strong desires but they never take the necessary steps to see those desires come to pass.

Turn your passion into purpose, take action!


Exodus 2:11 — 13

And it came to pass in those days, when Moses was grown, that he went out unto his brethren, and looked on their burdens: and he spied an Egyptian smiting an Hebrew, one of his brethren. And he looked this way and that way, and when he saw that there was no man, he slew the Egyptian, and hid him in the sand. And when he went out the second day, behold, two men of the Hebrews strove together: and he said to him that did the wrong, Wherefore smitest thou thy fellow?

Moses hated injustice of any kind. In the 2 cases mentioned in the above scripture, he acted on his passion. The result? He discovered his purpose; deliverer of Israel. His Purpose was to end oppression in Egypt and bring a justice system in Israel.

 Purpose never falls in our laps, we take steps to discover it. Why not start today? Start by auditing yourself. What do you love passionately? What do you hate passionately? What are you going to do about it?