FINDING PERFECT PEACE IN A PERFECT STORM

I submitted the article below for publication on a blog called faithfuldevotions some time ago. Little did I know I was sending myself comfort into the future. It got published a few hours before I lost my father in law to cancer.
I don’t know what storm is raging around you, but may you find perfect peace in your storm

FINDING PERFECT PEACE IN A PERFECT STORM 

His marriage was going through a massive storm. Financially, well, let’s just say he was living by faith. Did I mention that he had just buried a teenage daughter? But every time I met him, he was smiling from ear to ear.
I was confused. I knew what he was going through. He wasn’t supposed to be smiling. If anything, he had the right to be bitter at the world. He was entitled, dare I say, to be angry at God. But he wasn’t. And that’s what  baffled me.
 

The Secret to Perfect Peace

I just had to ask. And so I did. I wanted to know his secret, the secret to perfect peace in the midst of such turmoil.
His answer?

Isaiah 26:3
You will keep in perfect peace
those whose minds are steadfast,
because they trust in you.

I was still  perplexed. So he explained it to me as a father teaches a child the basic elements of life.
 

#1 Have a Steadfast Mind
 

Perfect peace comes from a steadfast mind. A mind that is always focused on the ultimate and not the immediate. A mind that is concerned about the eternal outcome and not the temporary distractions.

A steadfast mind is focused on the immutable word of God.
A steadfast mind understands that the storm is around me, not in me. 

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Pick Up Your Cross!

Pick Up Your Cross!

I read this article on Ladycee’s blog “Women Of Warfare ” and it has been haunting me ever since (in a good way of course 😊).

I just thought of sharing it with you because I also want you to experience what I experienced. No, not the haunting but a personal revival that came through reading the post.

Please read it prayerfully, it will change your life.

God bless!

Women of Warfare! (WOW!)

What is your cross?

It is any situation that calls for you to die to the dictates, desires and demands of your flesh… that requires you to take the route of suffering knowing that death to your flesh will enable you to minister God’s life-giving spirit to someone else.

The “flesh” represents not just your body but also your appetites, inclinations, impulses, negative and contrary responses.

Now the cross we are expected to carry, the path we are expected to tread will be unique to each one of us.

In my case, crucifying my flesh requires me to remain silent in the face of lies, false accusations, scorn and ridicule. It demands that I walk humbly through the gates of self-denial and submit to the punishing nails of humiliation as my name, reputation and self-esteem are nailed mercilessly to my cross. It also demands that I bear this cross of perpetual…

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5 Tips For Getting Through the Dreaded Teenage Phase

Hi guys!

Sorry for the long silence. I have been busy working on setting up a freelance writing business (if you know anyone who needs a freelance writer let me know😁).

Just thought I would share an article of mine that got published this weekend. Would appreciate if you can read it and share.

Thanks! Much love.

5 Tips For Getting Through the Dreaded Teenage Phase

The Dreaded Years
It’s every parents worst nightmare. It’s an inevitable moment on the journey of parenthood. A moment that comes too soon for many a parent, finding them ill equipped to handle the drastic changes that come with it.

Yes. You got It right. I’m talking about the terrible teenager stage. Science attributes it to hormones and growth, but I think it’s a conspiracy theory. I think the teens gather in the middle of the night and conspire to test our love for them.

Whatever the logical (or outlandish) reason for your little angel mutating into a pain in the rear end, it is possible for you as a parent to prevent or cure it. This article is a prescription for parents who are ready to take the battle behind enemy lines.

Ready? Here goes.


#1. Cut Them Some Slack

I remember it as if it were yesterday. It was a sunny day and the water was glistening as it reflected the sun’s rays. Well not really, the water was muddy but that’s besides the point. 

The point is I caught my first fish that day. As I struggled to reel it in my father shouted, “cut him some slack!” I knew what he meant. I had seen him doing it a couple of times. He would let the fish swim a distance, reel it in, let it swim a short distance, reel it in and so on. The whole point of the exercise was to tire the fish out so as to make it easier to reel in.

Cut your teen some slack.

I know, I know. You wanted some sage wisdom that would make your teen as docile as a new born kitten. Sorry. Life isn’t like that. 

Sometimes as a parent you need to loosen up and give your teen room to grow. In fact, you need to extend the boundaries of the house rules at this stage in their life. Don’t treat them the same way you treat a toddler (how I wish that were possible).

Instead of fighting them, like the fish, give them enough room to extend their boundaries without letting them go off completely. This means trust them enough to let them do as they please but within the confines of legal and family values.

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Thanks again!!!!

IN HIS GLORY

In His glory

I’d like to be

By His side

I’ll keep astride


Under His wing

I sure will sing 

Singing His praise

His name I’ll raise


Be sure to come

Your soul He’ll calm 

For in His presence

You’ll find the essence

Of a joyous life

No, not one strife.


In His beauty

I’d like to be

His glory

I long to see

In the special place

He’s prepared for me



Feeling poetic

Blessed day my friends!

“I Love You Daddy💗!”

I am always moved when I hear my two children say those magic words, “I love you daddy!” I say they are magical because no matter how terrible my day would have been, no matter how downcast I May be, those words always change me. The situation May not change, but my outlook and resolve always do! Those words always open up wells of joy and awaken the victor in me.
Curious mind that I have, I usually wonder if they know what they would be saying. And as if they are professional mind readers, they prove it with a big warm hug that oozes with love. “How do young children like these know to love?” This always used to baffle me until one day it dawned on me….


1 John 4:8

He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

“God is love….” Young as they are, they understand love because they carry a part of God, we all do! We are created in His image and I believe the greatest part of Himself that He deposits in us is His love.

It’s unfortunate that this God part of us called love sometimes gets destroyed by the things we go through in life. Instead of love, we allow bitterness and hatred to prevail. And I have noticed that this happens in a subtle way! Our hearts are hardened as we try to defend them! We are all emotionally vulnerable, and if we are not careful, in defending ourselves, we make things worse. We end up hardening our hearts. We end up losing the most important deposit God placed in us, His love.

Matthew 5:44

But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,

I know this is a tough pill to swallow but it works! You can never fight evil with evil. If you do, you would have become just like them. When you love your enemies, you become the bigger person; you emerge victorious.

Proverbs 25:21 – 22

If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;

And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;

For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,

And the Lord will reward you.

The best revenge you can dish out on your enemies is love! And after revenging, God will reward you, why? Because you would have shown Him and His love to the world.

The choice is always ours, to love or to hate. History has proven it over and over again, hatred is not progressive neither is it profitable. Do not harden your heart, allow God’s love to flow through you. Don’t harbour bitterness, it will spread and everything in your life will be bitter. Love really does make the world go round, only problem is, it’s in short supply.

Choose love all the time!

PRIMARY PURPOSE LEADS TO SECONDARY PURPOSE 

On the journey to discovering purpose, we need to understand that we actually have two main purposes in life. A PRIMARY purpose and a SECONDARY purpose. 

The primary purpose always leads to the secondary purpose.
To understand this concept better, I will use a piano as an example. The primary purpose of every key on a piano is to make music, but each key has it’s own secondary purpose, to play a specific note.
Our primary purpose is to serve God. Everything that was created has the same primary purpose; to serve God.

Psalms 150:6

Let everything that has breath praise the Lord.

Praise the Lord!

Every living thing was created to glorify God. Born again or not, every human beings primary purpose is to serve God. It is as we fulfil this primary purpose that our secondary purpose is revealed.

Acts 13:2

As they ministered to the Lord and fasted, the Holy Spirit said, “Now separate to Me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them.”

As they were carrying out their primary purpose, the secondary purpose was revealed! Who better to tell you why you were created than the one who created you! It is in service that the Master reveals to us what He desires from us, our secondary purpose.

Acts 13:36


“For David, after he had served his own generation by the will of God, fell asleep, was buried with his fathers, and saw corruption;

David served his generation, he fulfilled his purpose. Where did it all start? In the Bush as he was serving God through psalms and worship. In his case, his secondary purpose of being Israel’s ruler found him as he was fulfilling his primary purpose.

1 Samuel 13:14

But now your kingdom shall not continue. The Lord has sought for Himself a man after His own heart, and the Lord has commanded him to be commander over His people, because you have not kept what the Lord commanded you.”

David was a man after God’s heart, in other words, he was passionate about serving God. Your passion for serving God will always open the door to your secondary purpose. It will always lead you to discover the answer to the eternal question, “Why am I here?

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From Pain To Purpose

In my previous post, I started sharing with you the 5 “P’s” to discovering your purpose. The first “P” we dealt with was passion. Your passion is a pointer to your purpose. Today we look at at an unlikely and unpleasant pointer; PAIN!

What pain are you willing to tolerate?
Pain is an essential ingredient to discovering your purpose. It sounds strange I know but read on to find out why.

There are certain things we are willing to suffer for and people call us crazy for it! Yet there are other things we see other people suffering for and we call them crazy! Purpose is always so strong in us to the extent that we are willing to suffer for it. We are willing to endure the pain.

Hebrews 12:2

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

What cross are you willing to endure? What pain are you able to tolerate? Nelson Mandela was willing to endure the cross of prison for the purpose of a free South Africa. He sacrificed his freedom and family because he realised his purpose was worth the price. Purpose always has a price, the question is are you willing to pay it?

There are always pain filled patches on the road to purpose. Some of them, though we don’t realise it, are training sessions! Pain is never meant to destroy us but to strengthen us.

Romans 8:28

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

 I know you don’t like pain, neither do I, but the pain we go through usually points to our purpose. It always works out for our good in that it brings us to our purpose. Joseph understood this well. He suffered the pain of rejection by his brothers. Not only did they reject him, they made a profit from him! How his heart must have bled as he saw his brothers dividing the money as he was dragged away to an unknown land. And when things seemed to have been getting better in Potiphar’s house, life dealt him another blow that had him sent to prison. Yet it is in prison that his destiny was unlocked! All the pain and tragedy was leading him to his purpose. Why do bad things happen to good people? Maybe that’s the route to purpose!

God had a purpose for Abram; to be the father of many nations. And yet he had no child and his biological clock was ticking it’s last. I can only imagine his pain when people mocked him and the promise of God on his life. And yet, in all that pain God had a purpose.

Some of the pain we go through is actually our ministry! A good example is that of Joyce Myers. Her ministry, her purpose, is founded on her traumatic past. She can easily relate to victims of abuse and trauma because she went through it. Turn your pain into your purpose! 

Genesis 50:20

But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive.

The evil we encounter in our lives is a stepping stone to our purpose. You either let it overcome you, or you choose to rise up and use it to your advantage! The choice is always yours. They say necessity is the mother of all inventions. In other words, our pains and needs should always push us forward, not bury us.

What pain have you gone through in life? Don’t let it bury you, rise above it and turn it to your advantage. Turn your misery in to your ministry, your cross into your crown and your trials into your triumph!

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